My husband is a person who is always engaged doing something, such as his handyman business. He deals with the real world and likes to follow patterns that have worked well in the past. He does things with exactness. He is a quiet thoughtful person and so am I. The big difference is that my thoughts are racing at top speed. I leap from thought to thought. I love to study and think about ideas. I like to see patterns in behavior and help people reach their potential (I'm a natural teacher). I live mainly in the world of thought and future possibilities. So how have a hands-on builder and a head-in-the-clouds philosopher been happily married for 42 years?
There were times when I wondered if we could make a successful marriage. We were just so different! He didn't seem to understand anything I said and my lack of attentiveness to details, such as rounding accounting, really bothered him.
Finally, we learned that differences can improve a marriage if there is love. Have we become old "twinsies" each giving up part of ourselves so that we are nearly the same? No! We have become even stronger in our abilities with the help and support of the other. He is my proof reader for my writing which makes my writing better. I help him run his business. He pays the bills, and I write family. His handling of the details allows me more time to use my abilities. Thanks to my husband's love and strengths, I have the time to study, think, and write. I enjoy sharing my strengths with him, helping him plan and run his business and relate to customers.